Stigma

I feel myself changing. You ever felt that. Its like I am two complete different people and I don’t know which one is the real me. One of it wants to get work done, study,  go out, work towards my goals, be productive. But the other one makes me feel worthless and disappointed in myself every time I try to do something. Its true anxiety and depression make the worst combination. I have no control of whats going on. I know some people might have it worse than me but that does not make my pain any less valid. It feels like an endless circle of weakness, sadness, disappointment and worthlessness. I cant tell if its killing me or making me stronger. I always try to control things but it ends up controlling me. I should stop just let go of things that I cant control and give it all to Him. And so should y’all. I’m the person who talks people into self-love. I truthfully assure everyone how wonderful they are, because I don’t want people to feel the way I do right now. I unintentionally

I t hurts to see so many beautiful girls struggling with their body image. It's not your fault. It is completely alright if you don’t look like others. You don’t need to be super skinny. You don’t have to comply with their idea of being attractive. You’re too beautiful in your own way to ever let anyone tell you that your body is not perfect. You don’t need to wear those black leggings to make your legs look skinny. You don’t have to have that perfect bikini body. Don’t ever let anyone body-shame you. If you let them insult you once, they will do it again. Stand up for yourself.  The same God that made the mountains, the oceans, the flora, and fauna, also created you. You were created in His mind. How can you ever think you are not beautiful? You don’t have to be fit in. You are too unique for that. Don’t let people’s opinions validate you. You’re fierce and you don’t need people to keep reminding you of what a magnificent masterpiece you are. I was also insecure about my hei

Life is unpredictable. No one, absolutely no one can tell you how long you are going to live. Maybe 5 years. Maybe 5 months. Maybe 5 days. Maybe 5 hours or even 5 minutes. So you see, there is no expiry date given with life. Its a matter of surprise for all of us. But I will give you a spoiler, we will all die at some point. So, no matter how long you live, remember to live, not just survive.  Our generation is so focused on the future that we forget about the time that is passing now. I know its cliché but think about it. Its good to plan ahead of time but we are so engrossed in the future that we forget the things we have now. The people we have now. You might have a long life but some of the people around you won’t. Your parents, your grandparents, your aunts, uncles, etc wont be here for as long as you will be. Its hurtful but its true. They have limited time. Even few people you expect to be here forever won’t be there cerebrating your success later in your life. So, be there

Growing up, we are expected to look a certain way, behave a certain way and even live a certain way. These expectations from the society are one of the root causes of mental illness. We are told to take the same path in our lives. Study, get good grades, top in our classes, get into a renowned university, get the degree, get a job, get married, have kids, and then die.  Its not wrong to take this path or go with the flow but its wrong to live your life just because it fulfils people’s expectations.  Your life is your story so there is no wrong or right way. Our society instils this in our minds that you having unrecognisable jobs is wrong, you not maintaining that 4.0 GPA is wrong, you living a different way is wrong.  When in fact, these things are the things the society wants you to do. You try to find happiness from fulfilling these expectations but the only way to find happiness is doing what you are really passionate about even though it does not fit the mould that the socie

Loving yourself makes you so much more powerful in this world. However, to love yourself, you first need to know what you are worth. Don’t think you’re inferior just because you don’t have the things that some people do.They don’t validate you, He does. Don’t give away this power to someone who does not value you.  Stop saying yes when you really want to say no. It does not make you rude. Disappointing others is better than making yourself suffer. Respect your time and talent.Stop holding onto people that discourage you, make you feel worthless and inferior no matter how close they are. You don’t need to ignite a fight or confront them with an argument, just let them go. I know it might be difficult to leave them at once because lets face it, we are all scared of losing people. But you know what, you are better off with them. And when you leave their company, you’ll find your own.  It will be difficult at first like in my experience, I recently changed my school, I was always us

Why do we keep holding onto people who hurt us over and over again? They love and care about us and so do we but still they keep tearing our hearts apart by the little things they do everyday. I understand they might be important but why do we keep giving them the power to break us apart? The problem is we grow so attached to some people that we start depending on them. We feel like our world revolves around them . We go to extents just to keep them close. And its not wrong to have such close relationships. Note that by relationships, I mean not just the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship but your relationship with your friends or family, etc. However, relationships should not be so intense that you start losing yourself in order to pursue them. That is toxic. You need to let go of the rose if its branch makes your fingers bleed. Just because its beautiful does not mean you have to tolerate the pain of getting stabbed by its thorns. There are plenty of alternatives to this rose. Rem

I have come to realise that one of the reasons people tend to stop loving themselves is because they are too engrossed in outdoing others. Be better than others. Impress others. To fit in with their group of friends or family. And its not your fault. We all are afraid of losing people so instead of confronting them about their behaviours or actions, we suppress our true identity to please them and hold the relationship for a long time. See, I believe change is a great thing that we need to do in life but it is correct if you change for yourself, to improve yourself and for your own betterment, not just to please others.  We don’t have to fit in. Our differences are the things that make us unique. You don’t have to fit in with the others because you are you. You are not perfect but you are so much more than your imperfections or your flaws. Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.  Growing up, I had curly, voluminous hair and every girl in my class had the perfect straight hair. Ever

Its discouraging when you see your friends, cousins and even your siblings having big goals and working hard to achieve them whereas you are just moving along life. One thing you should know- It is completely okay to not have goals and dreams. You'll get them when the time is right. I believe everyone has a purpose. Remember you are here for a reason. The same God who made this earth and all the beautiful creatures in it, had the thought of creating you so He must have had a valid reason for it. He didn't create you just because He was bored, now did he? of course not. You need to understand that. You might not know what your purpose is in life right now and that is totally fine. Some people get their goals at a young age while some at an older age. I am 16 right now. At this age, Jeon Jungkook debuted as a member of BTS (a South Korean boyband which now has global domination). He found his purpose at a really young age and started working towards it and eventually

You know that feeling when you feel like everything's falling apart, you feel worthless out of nowhere and even the smallest things get to you? even the closest people don't understand it so you can't blame yourself for it. I think this battle with yourself starts when you start focusing on people more than you focus on God. Let's talk about my story now. I have anxiety. I have had it since the past two years. I struggle with it everyday but I hesitate to talk to someone about it mainly because I am afraid of what people will think about it. I just have this mentality that people will judge me and treat me differently after knowing about my mental illness. And I am sure some of you reading would be able to relate to this. But you know what, I have started a new way that helps me live my life much better. I have started letting go of things that I can't control. And it may be difficult for people like me who overthink every single thing in life but gradually y