Simple living in this hustle cutlure

In this hustle culture, we as a society have made the idea of 'having stress' as something admirable. Having a lot of things in our hands, having a busy schedule. Since when did it become the new 'cool', the new 'successful'?  Many people may deny this but if you give long, serious thought to this, you'll realize that it is true. People talk about wanting a peaceful life but how is it possible until they stop making stress and being busy their USP. Until they stop showing off and bragging about it. 

The cases of depression, anxiety, and other thought disorders saw a huge peak during the lockdown period. Why? Because they finally got a tranquil environment to live in?  Or because maybe we are too focused on our persona, on how we want other people to perceive us, and not on how we are as a person. 

Now, who do we prove ourselves to? 

I'm not saying that you should just sit idle in your room watching Grey's anatomy but just a plea - Can we please stop glorifying 'being busy'? 

People who are always ready for plans with their friends or family are seen as idle and taken for granted. I know because I am one of them. And I assure you, this stems from my genuine love for them and from the desire to be able to spend more time with them. People who cancel their plans most of the time are perceived as hard workers. I am aware of the fact that things we get more easily are valued less but my point is about putting the other person on a pedestal for the sole reason that he is 'busy' or has a lot of 'stress'. 

It is so sad that we have built this mindset as a society where people are treated and loved for what they do, and not for who they are as a person. 

In case you do relate to these things, I just want to tell you that a slower pace and a simple life is nothing to be ashamed of. We are putting so much effort into trying to earn enough money to buy the things we are too busy to enjoy. 

And as Francine Jay puts it, "My goal is no longer to get more done, but rather to have less to do."

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