Stigma

You know we are taught to be the one in everything we do. Always the best in everything. And because we cant live up to these “expectations”, we get depressed and disappointed with ourselves. Even with our lives sometimes.  Let me clear the stats here. See, every one of us is extraordinary and expert in one or two things in life. Apart from these things, we are pretty average at almost everything. Now, Its human tendency to see either the best or the absolute worst in all things. Therefore, as most of the times, we see the absolute best.  For example, I’m pretty sure we all know Steve Jobs and look up to him for bringing a revolution in the field of information technology and blessing us all with his company’s products. The first word that would come up to your mind when I say his name would be “revolutionary”, “genius”, “hardworking” and even “iPhone”. As I said, the human tendency of seeing the area a person has expertise in. But how many of you thought of ...

I think one of the most important things I have learned till now is to forgive myself. I have learnt to not hold a grudge against myself. Always remember, even if all the people in this world are against you, you stay by side of yourself. No matter how difficult things get, remember you have Him who loves you more than anything else in this world. I sometimes think people see me as a boring girl, who isn't really outspoken and is awkward but you know what, I don't really care about it now. Yes, I don't run around and have fun. Yes, my idea of fun is sitting down with people who are the closest to me and talk about memories, Kpop, and deep things instead of talking about boys and relationships. Yes, I get awkward talking to guys. But at the end of the day, this is me. I can put on a mask that's the same as everyone else but I have to take it off eventually when the night falls. If God wanted me to be like them, He would've already made me like them. I believe t...

Sit back and ask yourself, why are you doing what you are doing? Is it for yourself or is it for others. see, I believe its good to make others happy but you should not do that at the cost of making yourself suffer. You don’t have to put on a mask just to make those around you happy. Its not your job to make everyone happy. however, its your duty to take care of your soul. Do what you feel like you need to. If you’re feeling down, you don’t have to force yourself into going out. spend time with yourself, maybe watch a movie. Don’t worry about how they will feel if you cancel the plan. If they really care about you, they will understand. I am the type of person that would sacrifice my well being just because it makes people happy. I have always done that because I thought I was helping others. But you know what, that just degraded me because I started feeling attached to them and having those expectations of them.  I used to pretend to be happy when really I was depressed. ...

There is something about the world we live in that constantly piles up expectations and fantasies of how things should be. You go on social media and see all those people who are loved so utterly and you sit there thinking I am not loved the same way. See, all your relationships are different in their own way because the person you hold that bond with is unique. Maybe he or she does not buy you all those teddy bears, Candys, expensive gifts and a Gucci bag but that does not illustrate that person’s feeling about you.  See the thing is, different people express their love differently. And that does not make them any less worthy of your affection. Love the person they are, not the one you expect them to be. Understand that there are people out there who appreciate genuine good memories over materialistic things. On the flip side, there are people who just give out gifts and spend money on you to show you their feelings. There are even people who go out of their way to give you lo...

I t hurts to see so many beautiful girls struggling with their body image. It's not your fault. It is completely alright if you don’t look like others. You don’t need to be super skinny. You don’t have to comply with their idea of being attractive. You’re too beautiful in your own way to ever let anyone tell you that your body is not perfect. You don’t need to wear those black leggings to make your legs look skinny. You don’t have to have that perfect bikini body. Don’t ever let anyone body-shame you. If you let them insult you once, they will do it again. Stand up for yourself.  The same God that made the mountains, the oceans, the flora, and fauna, also created you. You were created in His mind. How can you ever think you are not beautiful? You don’t have to be fit in. You are too unique for that. Don’t let people’s opinions validate you. You’re fierce and you don’t need people to keep reminding you of what a magnificent masterpiece you are. I was also insecure about my hei...